Leaf Green

Loneliness is…

Since it is difficult to hear everything everyone had to say on the voice-mails , I will attempt to transcribe the messages people left:

  • Loneliness is standing in a room of crowded people and never feeling more alone and it’s a feeling of complete desolation, not only from yourself, but from everyone else in the entire world.
  • I think loneliness is not having friends around you, not having people around you, not getting the love, the friendship you want, not having human contact but at the same time, wanting it so bad that you feel like you’re exploding inside.
  • Loneliness to me is very frustrating because whenever I start to feel better, I always feel very silly for feeling so alone.
  • I think that loneliness is not having someone to receive the love you have to give and not getting the love you need.
  • I think loneliness is a terrible thing to go through, but a necessary thing at times. I think loneliness is feeling a deep connection with someone and having that connection severed in some way and through the process of dealing with it, you can really learn a lot about yourself and come out a stronger person.
  • I think loneliness is when no matter how many friends and family you have around, you feel unloved, you feel like nobody cares, that the right people don’t care.
  • I don’t think loneliness is, of course, just not being around people, even people you know, it’s more complicated than that. My linguistics professor was once talking about the concept of discourse and was saying how we are still in discourse with people who are far away, people we seemed to have left behind. They are still part of our lives, our ways of thinking, and we a part of theirs. Our experiences are not occurring to avoid. And in the same way, I think this is why you can still be lonely in a room full of people, as they say, or even with people you call acquaintances or friends. Being surrounded by people you’re not in real discourse with, maybe that’s loneliness. But it’s only this mingled with hope that you’ll find a return to people within; the conversation can continue. I guess true, true loneliness, is having no-one to miss.
  • I think loneliness is frustrating and annoying and wonderful and lovely. I think it’s something; one of those things in life that everyone goes through and everyone can relate to. So, loneliness is a part of life.
  • It’s not a physical presence, it’s not like you’re the only one. Because you can be in a room full of people and it still doesn’t really matter.
  • I think loneliness is remembering too hard about what you once had and knowing you don’t have it anymore. Going to bed alone for the first time in years and waking up alone over, and over, and over again. I think loneliness is finally forgetting that shared laugh, that expected hug, and that secret touch. Someone said, “Loneliness isn’t being alone, it’s when someone loves you and don’t have it in you to love them back.” I agree with that because loneliness is addictive and uncomfortably comfortable. It’s sadness without empathy, it’s despair without immediate loss, and it’s panic without hysteria.
  • I think loneliness is a blessing because it can help you realize how much you feel about another person.
 
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